This is an absolute must-read for everyone!
“The Four Agreements” is one of the most popular books in the personal development world and it definitely comes highly recommended. It was one of those reads I had on my list, yes I do have an actual long list of books I want to read, for a few years, but couldn’t cross it off until recently and I wish I had done it sooner!
The book is fairly short with 140 pages and the pages are small, so the fast readers out there could read it in one sitting, but I prefer to read parts of it in small chunks and then process what I’ve read. If you’re going to do this, it might make sense to split it up into the different chapters/agreements, but I’ll let you decide what works best for you…
“The Four Agreements” is a code that the most powerful live by. It contains four steps that people must embody if they want to as we say around here, “LIVE A GREAT LIFE” so that’s why I want to share them with you today. These agreements might sound simple to do, but they are even more powerful when you live them out.
The first agreement is to “BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD”…
I love how the word used here is “IMPECCABLE” because by definition it means to have the highest standards and when we think about the words we use every single day, how many of us are actually living this way?
We are blessed with the ability to speak and it’s not one that should be taken lightly, and when we look at another definition of the word “impeccable” it means to not do anything that goes against who you are.
So, if you want to be someone who builds people up, why do you gossip? If you want to be someone who lives a peaceful life, why are you yelling at your kids? If you want to be someone who can be trusted, why are you lying?
This first agreement really challenged me to reflect on how I use my words and whether or not they match the person I want to be and this doesn’t just happen with the words we say to other people, but it’s also important to be impeccable with the words we tell ourselves.
The second agreement is “DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY”…
This can be a hard one to get used to, but it is freeing when you do it. This has been an important lesson for me to learn over my life and I’ve come to the conclusion that everyone is operating from a different place, with different values, beliefs, and past experiences that shape who they are today.
You might be sitting at your job waiting on a customer and they start yelling at you for no obvious reason – don’t take it personally because you don’t know about how this person’s day went. Or maybe they were raised in an environment where raising their voice was what they had to do to get their way. It isn’t right and you should have expectations about how you are to be treated, but taking things personally is going to affect you way more than it will affect the other person.
Ruiz drops this quote I want to share with you referring to the second agreement “Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.”
In a world where we are so often taught to focus on the “me”, don’t take anything personally. This is an extremely freeing choice to make when you live with this agreement.
The third agreement is “DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS”…
How many times in your life have you gone into a situation with assumptions that didn’t come true? I know we’ve all been there many times before and it is always better to ask questions going into a situation rather than making assumptions.
Making assumptions is like a Tsunami… they start out small and you really can’t recognize them, but as they go on, they build and get so large they get out of control and then chaos ensues.
This happens everywhere in life. Relationships. Money. Family. Your job. And even with ourselves. Don’t make assumptions and get lost creating a false reality.
The fourth agreement is to “ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST”…
This is the one agreement that ties every other one together.
Life throws a lot at us and sometimes the situations we find ourselves in are ideal, and sometimes they aren’t, but regardless we can always make the intention of doing our best regardless of everything else.
I think this is key to being successful because there will be times we are impeccable with our word, but there will be times when we slip up.
There will be times when we don’t take anything personally, but there will be times when pride gets in the way.
There will be times when we go into situations without any assumptions and expectations, but there will be times when we think we know what is going to happen.
Regardless of whatever happens, we need to always do our best and understand living from this place creates a life worth living!
I know if you can make these four agreements with yourself and commit to living this way you will definitely live a life that stands out and you will experience freedom, happiness, and more! Remember, you can get a copy of “The Four Agreements” for yourself using the link down below and please, read this book, you won’t regret it!